The Importance Of Taking Action Now

Thanks for joining me! I hope you found the article that has brought you here helpful. It is based on my personal experiences, both before I saved my marriage and what I have learned after doing so.

For me, I never realized everything I had been saying and doing to save my marriage was wrong. It only started to make sense after I found out about a series of steps that would turn my marriage around forever, and I am not the only one. I have heard from tons of couples who have found this approach to be a life-saver for marriages that seemed destined to fail. But the key for me, like many others, was my willingness to take action! Was I too stubborn at first, thinking I could fix things on my own?

Sure I was!

But my marriage was worth the extra mile I went and I am so thankful that I did. You can quickly begin pinpointing not only the "real" cause of your troubled marriage and why all of your instinctive efforts to fix it up to this point have failed, but also the clearly laid out necessary steps needed to repair it.

One things for sure though, time is definitely not on your side right now. And believe me, this problem won't go away on it's own (I tried that one too). The longer you continue to do the same things will only lead to the inevitable, and you know what that means without me having to say it.

The question is, do you have it in you?

To take that extra step in saving your marriage, whether your spouse wants to or not.

Click Here if you'd like to learn this solid approach to saving your marriage when everything else so far has failed you.


I sincerely wish you and your spouse all the best on your journey together!

R.P. Smith

Struggling To Save A Failing Marriage When Your Spouse Wants A Divorce?

Feel like you are in a desperate struggle to save a failing marriage? For me it came as somewhat of a shock when my wife asked to separate. I knew we were having problems but I certainly didn’t want a separation. And she was even talking about divorce! I was caught off guard and felt angry, betrayed, scared and very lonely. How could she do this to me? How could she do this to our family? It felt like everything we had worked for was about to come crashing down. I felt like my world was ending! So I began to do certain things and say certain things that came naturally to me. I thought these things would be able to get her to change her mind. But it was soon pretty obvious that I didn't have a clue how to save a failing marriage. My attempts were not working and at this point, I didn't know where to turn.

The good news is our marriage is now better than either of us had ever dreamed it could be, better than it was on our wedding day, but only after I completely changed my approach. I had to learn how to avoid the common mistakes people make when a marriage is in crisis. I had to learn what to do, what to say, and what to avoid. I also learned how to get out of my emotional state and take action. And I learned that traditional counseling can actually be a huge mistake.

If you find yourself in a similar situation I strongly encourage you to sign up for my “5 Critical Mistakes” at the top of the page.

Interesting Statistics About Divorce

The common stat you hear everywhere these days is that "50% of marriages end in divorce." While this is partially accurate, that figure leaves out distribution of age groups, demographics, first, second or third marriages etc. Here are some interesting statistics about divorce rates in America:

• The divorce rate is highest for couples age 24 & younger. Chances for successful marriage improve steadily each year after age 25.


• Remarrying does NOT improve your chances! First marriage - divorce rate is 45% Second marriage - divorce rate is 60-67% Third marriage - divorce rate is 70-73%


• The divorce rate is lower for couples with children


• The "per capita" divorce rate is actually declining every year since 1991

The reality is that there are very few marriages that aren't worth saving. I'm guessing that if you are reading this, you believe that your marriage IS worth saving. And countless couples everywhere are making this same discovery!

My New Year's Resolution

With 2010 already in full swing, many people have made the typical resolutions: lose weight, quit smoking, get in shape etc. For a couple in marital crisis however, there may be no desire to do much of anything. I'm going to suggest something to anyone who is in a bad marriage: Make a New Year's resolution to take care of yourself! Commit to a diet and exercise regimen even if you have to force yourself. A poor diet of junk food might bring temporary pleasure while you are eating it but eating healthy makes you feel better long term. An exercise regimen might be something as simple as a walk around the block, or situps & jumping jacks in the morning. Make time for daily prayer or meditation. All of these have been proven to put people facing crisis in a much more resourceful state to handle that crisis.

All my best to you and your partner in 2010!

Saving a Marriage After a Job Loss – The 5 Keys

As the unemployment rate continues to hover around 10% in the United States, many married couples find themselves in the unusual position of having the primary breadwinner in the household without a job. For couples who are already experiencing tensions in the marriages, this additional stress can prove to be too much. Problems that were lying just beneath the surface can suddenly become more pronounced. The lifestyle that had been enjoyed before the job loss may very well change as well; as couples are forced change their spending habits. There are also a lot of emotions that go along with losing a job: embarrassment, anger, worry and low self-esteem.

The following are the 5 keys for saving a marriage after a job loss and helping couples get back on firm financial footing:

1. You and your spouse need to be on the same page with a sound financial strategy. This will require you to meet with a financial advisor, who can help you assess your overall financial situation, establish a budget and develop a game plan to meet your objectives. You will be amazed at how much your confidence and self-esteem will increase when you have a plan. If you and your spouse have developed this plan together, you are both on the same page and this will reduce tension in the relationship. Plan your work and work your plan!
2. Make finding a full time job your full time job. Get up every morning at the same time you did when you were working. Shower and dress in business casual attire even if you will not be leaving the house. There have been studies done which indicated that people who are working from home are more productive and sound more professional on the phone if they are dressed in business attire. This also demonstrates to your spouse that you are serious about your job search and determined to make the most of it.
3. Networking is critical to finding employment. Studies have shown that as many as 60% of new jobs are not posted. They are either filled from within the company or in many cases through networking. Facebook and Linkedin are great social networking tools to let people know you are seeking a job. The wider net you cast, the better your prospects are for finding a job.
4. Although a strong focus on finances and job search are critical, do not forget the importance of family time, both with your spouse as well as the children if you have any. Be sure you place a high priority on communication. You need to be confident and strong.
5. Take care of yourself. If you are not physically fit, now is a great time to start. A daily work out and a nutritious diet will make you feel better and you’ll have great energy and confidence to meet the challenges ahead of you. Also, do not underestimate the value of spiritual fitness. Whether you derive your spirituality from prayer, church, meditation or all the above, a strong spirituality can literally transform your life in ways you never thought possible. And above all, be grateful for what you have. Millions of people would stand in line to trade places with you, so keep things in perspective.

Happy 2010 ???

As we move into a new decade, we do so with a mixture of excitement and uncertainty. Every new year brings with it the promise of exciting new changes, hopes and dreams. Often we make resolutions for the new year. For those in a troubled marriage, the coming new year may be a frightening time. I've started this blog to make resources available to those seeking advice, answers, help and hope for saving their marriages. The reality is, not all marriages can be saved. The reality also is that too many marriages end in divorce that don't need to. Divorce is rarely the best solution, especially when children are involved. This blog is dedicated to families everywhere who want to stay together, even in the face of insurmountable odds. Best wishes for a blessed new year!